Showing posts with label Authentic Femininity. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Authentic Femininity. Show all posts

Sunday, 6 March 2016

The Immaculate Conception and our call to holiness



    The Immaculate Conception is very often a source of confusion for Catholics and contention for non-Catholics. Though commonly misunderstood as referring to Christ’s conception in Mary, it actually refers to Mary’s own conception in her mother’s womb. From the moment of her conception, Mary was ‘by a singular grace and privilege granted by Almighty God… preserved free from all stain of original sin’ (Ineffabilis Deus, DS 2803), and by the grace of God ‘remained free of every personal sin for her whole life long’ (CCC 493). This is what we mean when we say that Mary was without sin.

 

   Though this dogma is not explicitly revealed in Scripture, the angel Gabriel seemingly couldn’t be much clearer in his greeting to her as he announces that she is to become the mother of Christ our redeemer: ‘Hail, full of grace’ (Luke 1:28). If Mary is full of grace, there is no room for sin! It’s because of this lack of sin that she is truly free to be able to respond to God’s invitation with the willing ‘fiat’ that we read of in the subsequent lines of Scripture, because there was no sin to cloud her judgement (CCC 491). Just like us, whose human nature has been deprived of God’s supernatural grace because of original sin, Mary was in need of redemption through her son Jesus, but in a unique way was redeemed in advance, as it were, by being preserved from sin from the beginning, and enriched by a ‘gift of sublime grace’ for her role as Mother of God (Lumen Gentium, 53). In other words, she was saved from sin before sin could occur. 

    St Paul’s teaching that ‘the wages of sin are death’ literally means that sin separates us from God, in whom is the fullness of life. A woman living in this state of separation from God could not possibly conceive God Himself in her womb, and therefore we must conclude that the Mother of God had to be free from sin. Mary’s Immaculate Conception is necessary for our salvation because it is by the grace that preserved her from sin that she was able to conceive and bear Jesus, our Saviour, and so to share in His salvific mission on earth.

‘In the soul of this "daughter of Sion" there is manifested, in a sense, all the "glory of grace," that grace which "the Father...has given us in his beloved Son."’ (Redemptoris Mater, 8).

    Though full of grace and blessed by God to a ‘special and exceptional degree’ (RM, 8), we mustn’t forget that Mary remained human like us! Mary holds out to us a perfect model of what we are all ultimately called to in Christ: a life without sin, and full of grace! She reveals to us the fullness of the grace that is available to us in Christ Jesus. She shows us what Jesus meant went He urged us to ‘be holy, because I am holy’ (1 Peter 1:16). In this way she inspires and challenges us to reach the heights of holiness which we were created for, knowing that we will inevitably fall – alas, we are not ‘full of grace’ – but should never tire of pressing on ‘toward the goal for the prize of the heavenly call of God in Christ Jesus’ (Phil. 3:14).

Tuesday, 3 November 2015

I Am Not Eve



‘She is the crescendo, the final, astonishing work of God. Woman. In one last flourish creation comes to a finish not with Adam, but with Eve. She is the Master's finishing touch… Eve is… breathtaking.’  
(‘Captivating’, Stasi Eldredge)

“But I am not Eve”, I tell myself.

“I’m plain. I’m nothing special. I’m ugly. I’m impure. I have too many flaws to be a finishing touch. I could never be described as breaktaking. I’m a mistake.”

    How many of us have heard these words in our minds or even on our lips? We know the creation of Woman. We may even love it. And yet we separate ourselves from it. We place Eve of a pedestal and marvel at the creativity of her Creator and stand in awe and wonder at the glory and goodness of God. We proclaim “Yes! This is the crown of creation!", yet we reject that truth about ourselves.
 
    But here is the truth we so often neglect: Eve is not a goddess. Eve is a woman. She’s a woman just like you and me.

    Eve’s innate beauty is the way she reflects the beauty of the God whose image and likeness she was made in, and for that reason her beauty is the very thing that will inevitably come under the most attack from the enemy – who doesn’t want her to know her true identity. He doesn’t want her to know the power of who she truly is.  


    You, too, bear the image and likeness of your Creator. You, too, have power in your identity. You, too, are breaktaking. 

    … And so you, too, are a threat to the enemy. And he SHOULD be afraid of you! But, sister, you have no reason to fear yourself! We daren’t recognise our own beauty because Satan has planted his own fear in us. So we criticise and fantasise and agonise. 

    Catherine of Siena said “Be who you were created to be and you will set the world on fire!” Well, let me ask you this: What would happen if each of us were to truly know, embrace who we are as daughters of God. Can you envision the day that Satan realises He no longer has any hold on us because we have no doubt in our God-given identity and inheritance? He conquered by a woman, and now a woman conquers him. She that was once his weapon is now his destroyer, brave and invincible.’ (John Crysostom). 

 ‘You shall be a crown of beauty in the hand of the Lord.’ (Isaiah 62:3)

You, dear sister. YOU shall be a crown of beauty.

You ARE a crown of beauty. You are the crown of all creation, and your Father looks at His creation in you and declares “Behold, it is very good!”

… And no, I am not Eve. But I am something greater. I am a unique creation. That uniqueness means that womankind – the crown of creation – is not complete without every single one of us. You are necessary for Woman to be complete.

Monday, 29 June 2015

You're Beautiful: A letter from men



I ran a workshop recently for teenage girls exploring the beauty of God’s design in creating men and women differently, and how we can be a gift to each other. I wanted them to know that authentic masculinity is not the same as the immature boys who humiliate and objectify them, and to lead them to a place where they were able to see (and desired to treat) the men around them as their brothers in Christ.

As I prayed about it, I remembered the LifeTeen post several months ago in which Catholic guys explained what they really found beautiful in women. This post reassured me not only that I am beautiful because that’s how I was created, but also that there are men who see that. There are men who are looking at my heart rather than my figure, who seek God and holiness above all else and who are passionate about upholding my dignity, and that those are the kind of men who deserve my heart. 

I so wanted the girls I met in ministry to come to the same revelation, so I decided to recreate the concept from the point of view of people I know and can vouch for. I asked some of the very best men I know to complete the sentence: ‘You’re beautiful when…’  

The result blew me away. Brothers, I am so incredibly blessed to know you! Thank you for restoring my hope.

Sisters, as you read each line, allow the truth that YOU are beautiful to sink deeper and deeper in your heart.


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You’re beautiful when you find a reason to smile in even the smallest things.

You’re beautiful when you show those close to you how much you love them.

You’re beautiful when you treat everyone with compassion and respect, and always have time to do something that will make someone’s day.

You’re beautiful when you build people up.

You’re beautiful when you share what you truly find rewarding.

You’re beautiful when you prefer to spend more time with Jesus than anything else, even more than with me!

You’re beautiful when you don't conform to what the world has to offer.

You’re beautiful when you choose the way of God and not the way of the world.

You’re beautiful when I see the way you love Jesus and it makes me want to love Him more!

You're beautiful when you accept a compliment gracefully.

You’re beautiful when you accept and are aware of the truth and power of your beauty.

You’re beautiful when you put all your trust in Jesus.

You’re beautiful when you desire to be the best you can be.

You’re beautiful when you recognise your dignity.

You’re beautiful when you detach yourself from what the world wants you to be and you realise the beauty of who you truly already are.

You’re beautiful when you love the person God made you to be, and don’t want to be someone else.

You’re beautiful when you worship God freely.

You’re beautiful when you are brave in your honesty.

You're beautiful when you look at me right in the eye, not because you're trying to seduce me, but because you are genuinely interested in what I have to say.

You’re beautiful when you challenge and call the best out of the men around you.

You’re beautiful when you smile and laugh in the face of trials and difficulties.

You’re beautiful when you step out in faith and trust despite not knowing the outcome.

You’re beautiful when the world can see Christ in you.

You’re beautiful when you believe, even just for one second, that you are a work of art.

You’re beautiful because you’re made in the image and likeness of Beauty itself.


You don't know!! YOU DONT KNOW YOU’RE BEAUTIFUL!!

But you are beautiful… always… end of!

You’re already beautiful, and you’re already precious. Don’t change that!


You’re beautiful because it doesn’t matter what I think, only what the Creator thinks.