Modesty is not about guilt and shame, but about accountability
and humility.
Bear with me. You are not about to be instructed
to wear only maxi skirts, shapeless long-sleeved tops and a headscarf to ensure
the absolute minimum amount of flesh is on display. In fact, that is the very
essence of the way in which we have become too caught up in the physical
implications and drifted away from the true meaning of modesty.
Modesty is not synonymous with
oppression. It is not a concept intended to hold women down or restrict their
growth as individuals by instilling in them a sense of inferiority. Neither is
it intended to hide women away under folds of fabric so that they cannot be seen
or heard. In fact, it is entirely the opposite. Modesty is NOT a matter of the
hemline, but a matter of the heart. It is not restricting, but freeing. The
word itself is defined as ‘the quality
or state of being unassuming in one’s own abilities.’ Where does that definition mention the body? The
point is that the applicability to the body is merely a consequence of the
applicability to the heart. Instead of using our femininity to achieve, we
should acknowledge the reality that it is not by our own strength, but by God’s,
that all things come about – ‘I can do all things
through Christ who strengthens me’ (Philippians 4:13). THAT is true
modesty.
“Women
who claim to be devoted to God should make themselves attractive by the good
things they do.”
1 Timothy 2:10
When we hear the term ‘modesty’ our
thoughts automatically jump to clothing and appearance. We think of being told
not to wear short skirts or low-cut tops… and our thoughts generally go no
further. In stopping on the outside of our bodies, we stop on the outside of
the concept. By neglecting the heart, we don’t pierce the reality of what it is
to be truly modest.
“Charm is
deceitful and beauty is vain, but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.”
Proverbs 31:30
A prime example of this is the original
nakedness of Adam and Eve. Before original sin, Adam and Eve were able to ‘see
and know each other…with all the peace of the interior gaze’ (JPII –
ToB, Jan. 2nd 1980). They did not associate their bodies with
impurity or with shame, because their view of the world and of each other was
in line with God’s. They saw God’s plan in their bodies, and that is what they
desired. The fact of this shows that the initial intention of modesty was not
to hide the body, but to protect the heart.
Purity is not prudishness! When the
Sistine Chapel was restored several years ago, Pope John Paul II instructed the
removal of the loincloths from several of Michelangelo’s nude paintings, which
had been added by previous popes in a bid to cover what they deemed ‘impure’.
And John Paul did so ‘in the name of Christian purity’ (Christopher
West, ‘Theology of the Body for Beginners’).
The previous popes had sadly missed the point in this instance! Purity does
not mean avoidance or aversion, because those two words imply quite the opposite:
the need to remove yourself from a situation implies the presence of something
to be avoided – something impure. Striving for purity in this way actually in
itself prevents the recognition of what is truly pure.
“Man
looks at the outward appearance, but God looks at the heart.”
1 Samuel 16:7
The way we choose to appear to the
world is our expression of the way we want our heart to be seen by God. Purity
is achieved only when the two fall in line. If we desire to be pure but dress
provocatively we are doing that desire a disservice. Likewise, no matter how
many layers we cover our bodies with, an impure heart will still be seen by
God. Covering up the flesh won’t stop you from acting provocatively if you
haven’t challenged the human lust within us all which resulted from the fall of
Adam and Eve.
So, rather than being at the forefront
of our impression of modesty, the physical aspects should stem from the
internal aspects. If we gain a deeper respect for ourselves as human beings,
and for our hearts as women, then from that emerges the desire to dress modestly, rather than simply surrendering to the
pressure of the Church to do so. The way that you dress then becomes merely a
natural, outward expression of your inner desire for purity and humility. Modesty
is not about guilt and shame, but about accountability and humility.
This is beautiful, and so so true, thanks Esther! :)
ReplyDeleteClaire (Life With Open Arms)