Hear me out. I’m all for the
empowerment of women, enabling the fulfilment of their full potential and
removing restrictions on achievement. I’m fortunate enough to be benefitting
from a great education and exercising my right to vote. I take none of that for
granted, and I respect women like Emmeline Pankhurst and Millicent Fawcett as
some of the greatest, bravest heroines of all time. I’ve seen so many
incredible women utterly change the world in recent years, who have done
nothing but inspire me to be everything I can be. But there’s a fine line
between fighting to be who we could and should be and forgetting who we are…
“God has assigned as a duty
to every man the dignity of every woman.”
Pope John Paul II
Pope John Paul II
I recently overheard a group of girls
my age arguing in favour of women priests in the Catholic Church. That’s an
argument I won’t go into now, but what affected me was the fact that those
girls weren’t actually Catholic. In terms of their own faith and lifestyle the
initiation (or not) of women priests was neither here nor there, and yet they
were so vehement about their case! It struck me that their primary cause for
objection was simply that men had something women didn’t have, regardless of
what that thing was. When the fight for women’s empowerment falls down is when
it becomes fighting for the sake of
fighting, or fighting to essentially
BE men.
I get that the history of the Church
has been filled with misogyny. It hurts me too. But if we allow that hurt to
stifle our femininity then that in itself means we’re accepting it. Somewhere
along the way being ‘equal’ has become synonymous with being identical. If it’s
being identical that we’re fighting for, then equality goes out the window
because we’re sacrificing everything that makes us uniquely women and
conforming to the patriarchal stereotype we claim to oppose. We’re fighting
being repressed by repressing ourselves!
“In the image of God He created them; male and female He created
them.”
Genesis 1:27
The first phrase of this verse reveals that all of humanity
is made in God’s own image. Every person – every gender, race, shape and size –
is equally reflective of the nature of God. So why, then, is there a need for
the second phrase to be added? Because it emphasises the intentionality behind manhood and womanhood.
The creation of Woman wasn’t a mistake
in the production line. Neither was it an afterthought or an experiment with
the human mould. Woman was the culmination of the whole of Creation!! God was
not satisfied with Man alone, because He saw that ‘it
is not good for man to be alone’ (Gen. 2:18). He scoured the earth and
all He had created but ‘no suitable helper was
found’ (Gen. 2:20).
How many times do we hear women
complain that men just aren’t men anymore? Is that any surprise when we don’t
allow them to be? We emasculate them by attempting to take over manhood rather
than to complement it with our womanhood! We spend so long trying to be the
same as men that we end up adapting ourselves for our cause – surely that
actually undermines that cause?!
If we choose our battles wisely rather
than automatically going on the defensive we can achieve so much more. If we
appreciate who we are, then others will appreciate that too. Catherine of Siena
said: ‘Be who you are meant to be and you will set
the world on fire’. SET THE WORLD ON FIRE!! How much better could the
world be if we all individually aimed to fulfil our own unique purpose rather
than lusting after someone else’s?
Yes, if your purpose involves certain
careers you’re going to have to fight harder than others to fulfil it. No,
society hasn’t reached its ideal stage of acceptance. There is still plenty of
work to be done and progress to be made. But in order to make it we need to
take a step back and figure out what that work actually is. No wonder we are
tormented by low self-esteem and attacks on our self-worth: we’ve learned to
see the features that make us unavoidably and beautifully female as negative!
“To me a woman is not frilly, flippant, frivolous and
fluff-brained, but she is gentle, she is gracious, she is godly and she is
giving.
You and I have the gift of femininity... The more womanly we
are, the more manly men will be and the more God is glorified.
Be women, be only women, be real women in obedience to
God."
Elisabeth Elliot
Go to the root of typically feminine
traits and the reality is a theme of strength and beauty rather than weakness
and inferiority. ‘Giving’ doesn’t
mean subservience, it means selflessness and life-giving: in the way our bodies
are naturally designed, and in the way Mary the mother of Jesus courageously
changed the world. ‘Sensitive’
doesn’t mean flaky or melodramatic, it means empathetic and compassionate. ‘Vulnerable’ doesn’t mean defenceless,
it means being open to let others in and trust them with what we value – an act
of bravery!
Ladies, let’s stop doing ourselves a disservice by battling to become what we are
not and to rid the world of the beauty of authentic
femininity. Instead, let’s embrace our womanhood in all its splendour and
step out into the world confident in the knowledge of who we were created to
be. Let’s clothe ourselves with strength and
dignity, and laugh without fear of the
future (Proverbs 31:25). Let’s embody the fullness of our purpose.
Let’s be wholly, fruitfully, and
unapologetically, women!
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