It is fairly likely that Abigail will
be a name you’ve heard from the Bible, but a character whose story you know
relatively little about. In fact, hers is a story which we are told very little
about – she appears only in a single chapter: 1 Samuel 25. But the small amount
we do know speaks volumes about her character. Upon discovering that her
husband had refused to repay the kindness that David had shown him – as was the
custom – Abigail recognised that ‘disaster was hanging
over (her) master and his whole household’ (1 Samuel, 25:17, NIV), because her husband had acted
with selfishness and self-righteousness. She hurried to restore her family’s
good name by offering gifts to David and begging for His forgiveness. Her
display of the deepest humility – ‘she…bowed
down before David with her face to the ground’ (1 Samuel, 25:23, NIV) –
and her demonstration of wisdom, courage and knowledge of battle led David to
accept her plea and give up his quest to kill every male in her community, thus
saving countless lives which the actions of her own husband would have
sacrificed.
Abigail was ‘a
beautiful and intelligent woman’ (1 Samuel, 23:3; NIV). Why is that
important? Simply because we are told so! The Bible is not a book of fancy,
descriptive fiction. It rarely dwells on details of physical appearance, so the
moments when it does are pivotal (among the few other women described in a
similar way are Bathsheba, Esther, Sarah and Rachel – all dominant forces within
God’s work across history). The Theology of the Body (Pope John Paul
II/Christopher West) tells us that the human body reflects God’s image and is a
key part in His plan for us. Therefore we are each given our appearance for a
reason that serves that plan. Did Abigail use her looks to get what she came
for? Absolutely! But rather than the worldly flesh-flauntation which immediately
springs to mind, she used the body God had given her to do His work.
In
my research for this post I read about a – let’s say ‘stocky’ – youth worker who
was grateful for her lack of stereotypical beauty because it meant that she
could reach out to the young people she worked with without the males lusting
over her and the females being jealous of her. It seems comforting to think
that however we look – whether we conform to stereotypes of beauty or not – God
made us that way for a purpose. Not only does that mean those of us with
insecurities about our appearance can be encouraged, it also means that those
whose natural beauty is often recognised must strive to avoid becoming conceited
or taking it for granted, but instead ask God why they were made that way and aim
to fulfil that purpose.
Abigail’s wisdom and cunningness not
only saved her husband and family from destruction at the hands of David’s
army, it also saved David from his own sin. For a woman to approach a man of
authority (in a way mirroring the story of Esther approaching the king) was an
extremely dangerous move. Yet Abigail’s courage in standing up to David
actually rescued him from himself, putting him forever in her debt – ‘May you be blessed for your good judgement and for keeping
me… from avenging myself with my own hands.’ (1 Samuel 25:33; NIV). For
her actions, and in recognition of her beauty, Abigail was rewarded with the
greatest accolade: when her husband died just ten days later (most likely from
the shock of sobering up and realising the potential jeopardy he had inflicted
on his family) she became David’s wife and queen.
In a culture where it is
disappointingly common for women to be lumped into the category of either
beautiful OR intelligent, Abigail offers hope that we can be recognised for
both. She is proof that beauty and brains can be reconciled, and can be used in
unique combinations by God. Alternatively, if the world tells you you’re unattractive,
ask God to show you yourself the way he views you. Similarly, if the world
constantly reminds you that you are ‘hot’ by its standards, ask God how He
plans to use that for His will – and pray for the grace to acknowledge that
God-given beauty in your heart rather than your head. Most of all, never let yourself
fall into a worldly category: to God you are one of a kind, and His plan for
you is one that only YOU can carry out – not just ‘any clever person’ or ‘any
pretty person’!
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